The first step to creating confidence
Confidence! Now there’s a thing… What is it exactly?
Well, for starters, it’s not an all encompassing feeling that is there all the time, it is ALWAYS dependent on something else. Think about it..
You may be a very confident driver, swimmer or cook. If I asked you on a scale of 1 – 10 how confident you were that you could tie your shoe laces I’m pretty sure the answer would be 11! But other things… well, that confidence eludes you. You doubt yourself, you feel flustered at the very thought of doing that certain thing, you know, like public speaking, making a sales pitch or going on that first date.
I know confidence is built from successes and past experience. The more you do something the more confident you feel but how do you start to build confidence in doing the unknown.
I think there’s a place that is often overlooked when it comes to building confidence. And, as usual, it is hidden deep within YOU.
It is called your INTUITION
Many people have become disconnected from their own innate inner wisdom, their intuition. They have become dependent on external verification. They look for advice from everyone and their Grandmother, hey even their Life Coach!
But here’s the thing… no-one else knows what is exactly right for you. All the people you ask for advice, even though they come from a place of love for you, will have their own (mostly unconscious) agendas (that’s why your Life Coach doesn’t give advice btw)
If they love you, they will want to keep you safe however, a bird in a cage may be safe but his wings are definitely made to fly free!
Learn to trust your intuition
So start today to reconnect to your intuition, your gut feelings. Learn to trust them again. Take a look back over your life and I know for certain you will spot the times when you listened to your intuition and also when you went against that feeling. And you will see that it was always right.
Whenever you have a decision to make be it for your business or personal life, develop the habit of asking the first person first (that’s YOU by the way!) Take a moment to be still and quiet, place your hand to your heart center and ask your question. Feel the feeling you feel, hear the first thoughts and see the first pictures that come to mind. This is your intuition speaking, your inner wisdom. Acknowledge it and follow it. And over time, you will develop confidence in it.
And then little bird… you will FLY!
“Let’s bury it deep in the earth,” they said “No, that will not do because humans will dig into the earth and find it.” “Let’s sink it in the deepest ocean.” they said “No, not there, for they will learn to dive into the ocean and will find it.” Then they said, “Let’s take it to the top of the highest mountain and hide it there.” “No, they will eventually climb every mountain.” So they said, “We do not know where to hide it, because it seems that there is no place on earth or in the sea that human beings will not eventually reach.” Brahma thought for a long time and then said, “Here is what we will do. We will hide it deep in the center of their own being, for humans will never think to look for it there.”