I love to read… it’s a bit like running though, I have to force myself to get started but once I start I love it! My current book of choice is Goddesses Never Age by Christiane Northrup M.D.
It’s a potentially paradigm shifting read especially if, like me, you are entering the’third age’ and want to defy the accepted norms of aging.
During my morning read today I came across this quote from Bernie Siegel MD, co-president of the American Holistic Medical Association in which he says “The fundamental problem that most patients face is the inability to love themselves.”
Sad but unfortunately true.
And it reminded me of an exercise I often give to my coaching clients who are struggling with self-love or negative self-talk. I ask them to find a photo of themselves as a child. You know, that imperfectly perfect, tiny innocent person, the sweet soul that shone before life covered her with a thick layer of BS** and I ask them to pin that photo somewhere where they see it on a daily basis.
Next, whilst looking at the photo, I ask them to imagine speaking to this perfect, beautiful soul like they do to themselves. Call that child the names they call themselves, treat her body like they do their own and do you know what?
They can’t do it.
Of course, I’m sure you guessed!
What they can do is love her, unconditionally, forgive her without hesitation, speak to her gently and share her sense of wonder in the world about them.
What people so easily forget or ignore, is that that small, wonderful little person is still there. She (or he) is still you and you her.
So maybe this is something you would like to do right now… or maybe the next time you start a tirade of nastiness towards yourself you will gently and mindfully remember to treat yourself as you would a child.
** In case you were wondering, BS is short for Belief Systems although I’m pretty sure what you were thinking covers it 😉
PS: Check out how to dissolve your layer of BS here