These are, your language, your beliefs and your values.
Values elicitation is a part of any coaching relationship. To be able to coach you well, I have to know, or at least have an inkling, of what those unconscious programs are. Equally, for you to make changes to your behaviour, in any area of your life, YOU have to uncover and understand those drivers. But how? How do you know what your values are? The ‘coaching question’ to elicit these is ‘What is really important to me?’ You keep asking this question until you have the answers all out of your head and on to paper. Some people really struggle with this approach, so here’s a different one for you. One that highlights your values without even thinking about it… Take a look at your everyday life and notice the following… What do you prioritise? What do you make time for in your life? Where do you spend your money?
The answers you get highlight your values.
I’ll give you a for instance from my life currently… Next week, I’m off to the UK to visit my family who I haven’t seen for over a year. You can probably imagine the amount of ‘stuff’ I have to get done before I go! And it’s always when you are under pressure, be it time or money, your priorities jump out at you. However little time I have I always manage to fit in my trips to the local Crossfit Box, this meets my need for connection with people and my value of honouring my mind and body with the fitness and vitality it needs to function well. I also prioritise my family time here in NZ with those people I love that I’ll be away from for the next month. I also make time for the commitments I have with people to do the work I have promised to do before I go. I value honesty & congruency. So if you’re struggling to figure out why you do what you do, simply ask that simple question… What do you make TIME for?